Why? A question so many people ask themselves when the light of someone's life is extinguished. He was too young. There is no answer, at least I've never found one. I have known Brian practically his whole life. Being friends with his sister since kindergarten, I have watched him grow, struggle, succeed, find happiness and know love. He was in such a good place in his life - he had such a promising road ahead of him. He knew what was important in life - something so many people his age haven't figured out yet. You could tell what kind of person he was by things he had written on his myspace page. Under the very first section he had this: "All we have is today.........have fun everyday and smile everyday! Enjoy your friends and family and love them with all your heart!"
He loved God. He believed the Bible would teach you anything that you needed to know in life. And he loved his family - totally and completely. And his niece, Molly. Merely finding out he was going to be an uncle excited him more than words could describe. Then when he found out that it would be a niece he announced it to the world and days after her birth he posted 72 pictures of her on his page to share that new found joy with everyone he knew! It was a new kind of love he'd discovered, and it would've been one that would've grown beyond imagination.
It's unfair - such a young life - this isn't the way that things should happen. They shouldn't be burying their only son, he should be burying them when they are old and gray and have lived a full life watching all three of their children grow up and have children of their own. Such a tight-knit family - they should've been able to spend their lives together. There is SO much more he had to do in life, so much more he had to see. It just breaks my heart to think of the void that will forever be in this family, the pain that will probably never go away. He won't be there for his younger sister's wedding, or to watch his future nieces/nephews grow up, he won't experience the love that comes with marrying your best friend and having a family with them, and he won't be there to comfort his sisters when they need him. I can't imagine the devastation that this family is feeling right now - nothing can make you feel like you did before you heard those awful words.
I fully believe that God has a plan for each of us, whether we like it or not. There is a purpose, we just may not understand it until our time comes. He will never give us something that we can't handle, no matter how difficult it may be.
I loved Brian like a brother, and I love his family as if they were my own family. I pray that God will give them the strength that they need to get through this, that they come together as a family and be a support system for each other. I last saw Brian the day after Molly was born. He was a very proud uncle and would've made a wonderful godfather for her. He was a wonderful son, brother, uncle, grandson, nephew and friend. He will be missed, but never forgotten. He will live on in the hearts and memories of those he leaves behind, so he will never truly die.
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